About the show
Gay investigative journalist Babatunde ‘Babs’ Okonkwo has come to visit his lesbian best friend Regina ‘Regi’ Abengowe in Lewisham. With mounting pressures back in Nigeria, where homosexuality is illegal and escalating dangers for their partners, Babs and Regi hatch a plan to get married. They hope this ‘cover’ will stop the threatening rumours and allow Babs to expose the inhumane treatment of LGBTQIA+ people in Nigeria, especially in the north where being gay is publishable by death.
With the help of Regi’s 89-year-old German Jewish neighbour and the ‘Mr & Mrs’ Board Game they put their plan into action.
But storms are gathering in Nigeria. Regi records the acts of violence happening to their friends and Babs’s own brother threatens to betray him. As the wedding approaches, Regi and Babs must choose what they care about the most.
how we love is a new play about different types of love.
how we love reviews – VAULT Festival, February 2020
‘the relationship and banter between Regi and Babs is very nicely realised, and it’s a necessary play. It reminds that civil liberties are under real, daily threat in Nigeria and that trying to police the heart is a step on the road to destroying those who refuse to love in the permitted ways.’ Lyn Gardner, Stagedoor
‘a thought-provoking play that pulls us in with its warmth and humanity’ View From the Outside
‘A must-see play’ The Plays the Thing
Content Warning: Contains description of homophobic violence, anti-Semitism, the Holocaust, and grief.
Age Suitability: 12+